Hey, Bob, thanks for the advice about the diode.
I went to Radio shack this afternoon, and picked up a diode rated for 50V, 1A.
I had previously joined the stern light wire to the bow light wire, after giving up trying to get the darn thing right when I first wired it.
So, I cut the stern wire away from the bow wire, as close as possible, and wrapped with splice tape.
I then crimped on a new female spade connector to the stern wire light, and connected it to the unused terminal of my switch.
Broke out the multimeter, set it for continuity, and based on the diagram supplied on the pack for the diode, I was able to confirm which way the current flowed through the diode. (Now that I realize how this thing works, it's basically a check valve for electricity, only lets it flow one way)
So, I next used some test jumpers, connected to the output terminals of the switch. I placed the diode between the jumpers, and flipped the switch in both directions, and looked at my lights to see what happened. Had it backwards on the first try.
Flipped it around, and sure enough, both lights came on with the switch in one direction, and only the stern light came on with it flipped to the other position.
Excellent!! 'Bout time I got it right.
So, after confirming the correct orientation of the diode to the switch, making the actual connection was simple, and required no solder. Since I'm using spade connectors to my terminals, it made it easy, too.
The diode has a length of solid wire coming off either end, about 2 inches long.
So, I simply bent each end at a 90 degree angle, and placed a piece of heat shrink tube over the diode and the majority of the straight portion of wire.
Then, I pulled each connector loose from either output terminal, and placed the diode wire in the corner of the female connector, and then re-installed them onto the terminals, and they fit very snug. After doing that, I gave the heat shrink a quick (and careful) shot of heat with the heat gun, to shrink it down onto the diode and insulate it somewhat. So, the diode basically is routed along the side of the switch, making contact with the 2 output terminals, with no splicing or soldering required.
And now my navigation and anchor lights work correctly!! Again, thanks for the info, I would have never figured this out.
These are the Cole-Hersee illuminated tip toggle switches. When they are off, they glow white
When they're on, they glow red
I have the pilot light circuit of the switches wired inline with the ignition circuit, so the white pilot lights only run if the engine is running
(I cranked the engine up for just a few seconds, to show them illuminated in these photos)